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From Step Dad to just Dad

   
6 year ago I had the fortune of finding my partner in crime, and along with her came two kids.  Now these kids are great kids.  And from the start, I could see them being my kids, but everyone told me that it would be different when I had kids of my own.  (Let me tell you now, after having two more of my own, it isn't any different.)  Before mine came along and after a little while of dating I asked her to move in with me, which naturally meant that her kids were coming too.

     Fast forward to 2014... My wife and I are having our first child together, a little girl.  By this point I get along well with my "step kids" and they like me more than I expected (I had no idea what to expect).  At family functions I was known as "Rick" instead of "Mom's Boyfriend", which was nice, and I referred to them as my own.  I never really used the term "step kids" because I didn't feel it was anyones business that they have a different biological donor to their jean pool.   

     Now it is 2015 and I have married my criminal cohort and our daughter is old enough start understanding things.  This is when one of the greatest shifts in my life occurred.  For the sake of keeping my kids off the internet I will refer to them with numbers.  Number One is my son from another father, number Two is my daughter form another father, number Three is my biological daughter, and number Four is my biological son.  Number Two decided to start calling me Dad!  Maybe it was because hers wasn't consistently around, or maybe I truly deserved to get the title, I am not going to speculate, but it was one of the greatest moments with my kids.  

     Years have now gone by and I have four kids.  All four of them call me Dad.  Number Two and Three because I am the only one they have, number Two because she chooses to (even when she thinks I can't hear her on the phone, she still calls me Dad to her friends) and number One because he wanted to make sure his little brother and sister called me Dad without confusing them.  I may not have earned it with him yet, but I will take the win for now.  

     Why tell you this? Because it is important to know that it doesn't matter where the kids came from, they are all mine! And at some point, I became theirs! They don't have to love me, and I don't have to love them, they could be just step kids. But somewhere along the way they chose me to be their Dad, and that makes me happier than I ever thought it would.

Take care of your kids, "Step" or otherwise.  Whether they say it or not, your still their Dad, and someone they need.  

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